THERAPY FOR betrayal & divorce IN RENO, NV

Discover purpose, meaning, and growth beyond this painful chapter.

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"Everything I thought my life would be is gone."

Few experiences shape us more than heartbreak. One day, you’re building a life with someone, the next you’re questioning everything you thought was true. Maybe your partner had an affair, or you're navigating a divorce you didn’t want. Maybe you've spent years trying to make a relationship work, only to realize there’s nothing else you can do to make things feel different.

Or perhaps there wasn't one defining moment. Instead, something unfolded slowly over time—a partner who repeatedly chose work, addiction, family loyalties, or other priorities over the relationship, leaving you feeling unseen, unsupported, and alone.

This kind of pain can run deeper than the relationship itself. You may feel angry, heartbroken, relieved, guilty, confused, anxious, or all of those things at once. You're grieving the future you imagined, the family you thought you’d have, and maybe even a version of yourself who was once so hopeful about how things would turn out.

You may be wondering:

Should I stay or should I leave?

Will I ever trust anyone again?

How did I end up here?

Why does this keep happening to me?

Who am I now that this relationship is over?

My Approach

This is more than just recovering from a relationship. It’s also rediscovering the parts of yourself that were waiting to be found.

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I view betrayal and divorce through both a grief and trauma lens. So while we certainly address the relationship itself, we also explore its deeper emotional, nervous-system, and soul-level impact. Healing isn't simply “getting over the relationship”—it's understanding more about what this chapter is asking of you and who you're becoming because of it.

Together, we’ll make room for all of the feelings—grief, heartbreak, anger, confusion, and uncertainty that naturally arise during a season like this. At the same time, we'll begin exploring the deeper patterns underneath the pain.

Why do certain relationships affect us the way they do?
Why do we stay, leave, repeat patterns, or lose trust in ourselves?
What is this experience asking us to learn, heal, or reclaim?

For some clients, the journey is about rebuilding trust and repairing the relationship. For others, it's about letting go and creating a new life beyond this. Together, we'll work toward what feels most aligned for you.

Depending on your needs, I may incorporate EMDR, Somatic Therapy, mindfulness, nervous system work, and holistic or psycho-spiritual approaches. For clients who feel drawn to a deeper exploration, we may also make space for questions of purpose, meaning, intuition, and the ways this loss is shaping who you are becoming.

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This work can help you…

Stop merely surviving the loss and begin integrating it into your life story.
Trust yourself enough to make decisions from a place of confidence.
Release the belief that you have to settle for less.
Understand why certain relationships feel so familiar—and choose differently.
Feel empowered to create healthier boundaries and stronger relationships.
Learn how to hold both grief and joy without abandoning yourself to either.
Reconnect with your intuition, your voice, and your inner knowing.
Create a life that feels more aligned with who you are today—not who you had to be to survive.

Emerge from this experience feeling more connected to yourself, your soul, & the person you're becoming.

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FAQs

COMMON QUESTIONS

Yes—but often that trust begins with yourself. Through healing, many people develop a stronger sense of self-trust, clearer boundaries, and a deeper understanding of what they need in relationships. From that foundation, trusting others becomes possible again.
Absolutely. For clients who feel drawn to that deeper exploration, I may incorporate holistic and psycho-spiritual approaches alongside traditional psychotherapy. You can learn more about those modalities HERE.
This is incredibly common, especially when children are involved. I can help you navigate co-parenting, communication, boundaries, and the emotional challenges that come with maintaining contact after a relationship ends.
Yes. Often, our relationship patterns have roots in earlier experiences, attachment dynamics, family systems, and unconscious beliefs about love. This work can help you understand those relationship patterns so you're able to make more intentional choices in the future.
Yes. Especially in unhealthy relationships, people often experience grief and relief simultaneously. You can miss or mourn the relationship while also recognizing that something needed to change.
Yes. One of the most difficult parts of betrayal is not knowing what to do next. Rather than telling you what decision to make (because I won’t, that will always be up to you), we'll explore your emotions, values, fears, hopes, and relationship dynamics so you can make a decision that feels aligned with who you are and what you truly want.
Many people do. Love and heartbreak often coexist. It's possible to deeply love someone while also questioning whether the relationship is healthy, sustainable, or aligned with your needs.
Every relationship is different. Some couples choose to rebuild, while others decide to part ways. What matters most is understanding what happened, processing the pain, and determining whether trust, accountability, and meaningful change are possible. This is a space to explore all of those feelings and realities.